Being asked to be a bridesmaid is exciting! It's a honor to know that you've been such an important part of a bride's life that she wants you to be a part of her big day.
But saying "yes" to being a bridesmaids automatically signs you up for a LOT of responsibility. Before you agree, here's a look at what will be expected of you. Pro tip: it's a lot of time and money.
Right out the gate, you can expect to spend anywhere from $50-$300 on a dress. And that's just the bridesmaids dress! Don't forget you'll also be going out for the showers, parties, and rehearsal dinner. Depending on whether or not your bride has chosen colors for those events, you could end up sending close to $500 on just CLOTHES.
As a bridesmaid, you're going to be expected to pitch in for the bridal shower and the bachellorette party. This means going in on food, entertainment, even transportation sometimes. $$$$$$$$
Being a bridesmaid doesn't just hit your wallet...it takes up your time too. You'll be expected to participate and help plan the shower and the bachellorette party, as well as attend those and the rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, and help set up/tear down the wedding. That means you may need to ask off of work, or time for travel.
The biggest job of a bridesmaid is to support the bride. There will be meltdowns. There will be tears. There will be nerves. You have to be willing to be willing to support the bride in every way, whether it's helping choose colors or put together 200 tiny box favors. Even if you hate your dress, you despise the colors, you think the cake looks awful...you basically have to keep your mouth shut and smile. This is all about her and you have to be willing to put your needs second to her's!
Being a bridesmaid is tons of fun, and it's incredible to be a part of such a huge moment in someone's life. But if you know you won't be able to contribute, there's nothing wrong with telling the bride you would be happy to help in other ways.
If you agree to the job but can't do it, it will put unnecessary stress on everyone....ESPECIALLY THE BRIDE. Trust us, she would much rather have you help where you can than be a bridesmaid that falls through!